Success in Private Speech and Self Regulations
Learn to compare success and failure to decide what direction you want to go.
The success and failure that we face in life today can often be traced to the way we have learned to think through situations and look at ourselves. This is based on the initial learning that we went through as children. Researchers have focused attention on private speech in childhood and identified this as a keystone factor in the development of independent individuals that are able to handle the outside world. The connection is there to see that if we do not use private speech or if the use of it is not fostered then we are stuck in a limbo in terms of the development of our thought processes.
If private speech is not fostered then there are two extremes that can occur. One of these is when we are too rigid in our approach to situations and this means that we are not able to make decisions ourselves. Often this is the result of situations where we are accustomed following instructions and not thinking ourselves. This occurs when too many the adults direct us in our lives. The child development is stifled and they are unable to make decisions for themselves. They rely on a rigid structure that they follow and continue onwards in this frame of mind. They are self-controlled but not self-regulated.
The other extreme is where there is no self-control or self-regulation. This is where the individual is uncontrolled and behavior is impulsive and erratic. This results when the environment did not foster the development of control or even independent thought. The child was allowed to act on emotion throughout development stages and this method of thinking has stuck through life. It is seen that the individual is not able to process thoughts rationally and that they are not capable o evaluating situations. They act on their first impulse, which is often not the best reaction in many situations and can make circumstances more difficult.
No one is born with the knowledge of how to behave or act and these are all skills that are formed in the formative years of development. It is more accurate to say that when we are young we are exposed to many experiences that shape our present existence, outlook and approach to life. If these experiences were not the best then we come out of this underdeveloped in certain areas of our lives.
As we become older it becomes harder to change these modes of thinking and often it can take much more effort. If we have children we should be sure to foster an environment where they can develop and use the tools available to them to learn the proper way to handle situations. Foster private speech and in turn independent thinking. Allow children some independence as they grow so that they are prepared for the world without your presence. We have to equip our children with the tools that they need to develop and this means that we need to be able to ensure that we do our parts in fostering their proper development.
Often if we are not in control of our thoughts and processes we are unable to function well in society and we will see ourselves as outcasts to society as well. We have to grasp control of these inner thoughts even if we are adults and focus them in the right direction to achieve our true potential. We will eventually see proper progression through our lives and this will make us overall better persons as well.